Dating an orthodox jew
If you’ve ever walked by a Yeshiva, you’ll notice the female students wearing long skirts and sleeves, and possibly tights.
But what I explained to him was that it’s not uncommon for stricter Orthodox men and women not to touch, sit next to, or even look directly at members of the opposite sex who are not his or her spouse or family.
One of my Modern Orthodox friends frequents a particularly ritzy mikvah on Manhattan’s Upper West Side. My friend is very much Orthodox, but is of her own admission someone who “likes to dance around the lines of what [Jews] are supposed to do.” Despite her casual attitude, my friend believes in tradition and the ways it can benefit a relationship.
When I was interviewing her, she was in fact in niddah, so when she asked her husband for a glass of water, he went as far as to place it on the table beside her as opposed to handing it to her directly. “During this period," she said, "you have to engage in talking to your spouse, and it’s more or a spiritual connection.
Any questions you might have about sex and your marriage could be directed to your rabbi, but would most probably be answered in your kallah class, which are classes both men and women take in preparation for marriage. She takes her bagels toasted, with cream cheese, onions and lox, but definitely no tomato.
Hey, they’re probably a hell of a lot more useful than my liberal arts education. She hopes this article makes her mother happy, since her dating choices chronically fail to do so.
On the flip side, many Modern Orthodox women let their Jewish locks flow in all their glory.