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I don’t remember if he put his arm around me, but he probably didn’t, or at least not immediately – which should have been my first warning.
Eventually, he plucked up the courage to write me an email.
In a deep (and well-meaning) desire to be “intentional,” or in an attempt to hide behind the excuse of it because of the pressure they felt, guys in their twenties became, or stayed, passive. A few wandered beyond the confines of church teaching and found that out in the real world, people could go out together and it didn’t have to be as complicated as we made it.
We needed the freedom to be together one-to-one without the niggling thought that this had to go somewhere, or without the frisson of the forbidden, which is its own kind of pressure.
(Girls, of course, were not meant to do the asking.I mention he was American because it occurred to me the other day that perhaps he had, in fact, read .Back then, in those pre-social media days, trends took longer to make it over the Pond than they do now, though I’m not sure that those things would have ever become widespread in the UK., and thus ignorant of the context into which it was written and the impact the book had already had in the US, where it had been out for some years. The notion that you waited until you were ready to commit to a relationship that had the potential to lead to marriage, and then you pursued it in an intentional, chaste way, was a deeply appealing one. I had also been hurt by a nice American Christian boy at university.
I’d been deeply hurt at university by a guy whose dating philosophy, if you can dignify it with that label, was the opposite of Josh Harris’.
(Dan, Dan, Toasted Cheese Sandwich Man, my friends called him, and now you can see why I wanted to tell you his real name.) We prayed together in his room.